The Creation Of Your Framework

I recently listened to a sermon by Andy Stanley and it really brought a lot of things into perspective for me. 

He said " Who raised us created our Framework and than we get older and adopt it."

We all have our own Framework and in it we have placed many things

such as:

• How we were raised

• How we view the world 

• Our Behavior 

• Our Choices 

• How we treat others 

• How we think 

• How we Speak

Etc...

In my earlier years I remember paring off the difference between my Mom and Dad (as I'm sure many of us have). 

But I had realized that mom would never really say "I love you" but that dad would say it all the time. 

I also realized that mom was never really the touchy-feely come over and hug me type of mom but when I was around dad very young the times I had with him I remember he would sit me on his lap, hug and sing his heart out to some oldie tunes and was much more openly affectionate verbally. 

I realized that their behaviors stemmed from how they were raised and who created their framework and that they just simply adopted what they knew.

See my mom was never really the affectionate type but showed more of her love in action. 

My dad was more of the affectionate type verbally but struggled in putting the love part in to action. 

Even though the two of them were different they both created the frameworks of my brothers,sisters and I. 

The reality is we take with us their habits as we get older and we bring it into our own family and relationships without even realizing it. 

• My mom taught me how to give, to be humble, to say sorry and to love in action. 
  

• My dad taught me how to love verbally, to be tough, to be more affectionate and the love of music. 

And these are all good habits but with the good came the bad. and It was not until I came into Christ that I was really able to see and examine the bad parts of my framework.  

The Bad Parts Of My Framework:

• Worrying 

• Controlling 

• Negative speaking 

• Bad temper 

• Negative thinking

• Allowing my emotions to dictate my actions 

• Alcohol 

• Smoking 

• Fighting 

• Defensiveness 

• Cursing 

These are all things I grew up seeing and experiencing.

My created framework has taken me on a crazy journey.  

The blessing out of all of this is that we can actually re-create our framework! Yay!

The moment I realized I could no longer go on living the way I was living I pressed in more with God and He rescued me. 

He revealed to me the parts I needed to change and the parts I needed to heal from.

The more I followed His instructions I was able to reconstruct the framing and now my new frame of reference is Jesus!

So I ask you today "Who created your framework?"  It's never too late to start reconstructing.

God is waiting..

Love

Bri